Obituaries from the week of 02/18/10

His parents were Hugh W. Hastings and Martha Fifield Hastings. David was born in Fryeburg and, after spending some years away serving in the Army Air Corps during World War II and attending school, David returned to Fryeburg, where he lived and worked for the rest of his life. David was admitted to Bowdoin College in 1942. DavidÕs college years were interrupted when he enlisted in the Army Air Corps as soon as he was old enough to contribute to the war effort. David became a flight navigator and had several domestic postings before the end of the war. After being discharged from the Army Air Corps, David graduated from Bowdoin College and moved to Cambridge, Mass., where he attended Harvard Law School. While living in Cambridge, David met and fell in love with his wife Doris. They married on Jan. 18, 1947. Upon his graduation from law school in 1949, David and Doris returned to Fryeburg to live, bringing with them Doris' two young sons, Bob and John Graustein. David and Doris later expanded their family by adding two more children, David III and Ann, and for some years the family further expanded to included David's nephews, Ned and Bill, whose mother had died while her husband, a career Navy officer, was committed to sea duty. Although Ned and Bill were able to return to their father once his sea duty ended, David and Doris both always had a special place in their hearts for them and their families. David had a long and successful career as an attorney. When he returned to Fryeburg he joined his father, Hugh, in the family law practice, which had been established in 1847 by David's great-grandfather and namesake. David worked in the family law practice for his entire adult life, having worked there together over the years with both his brother, Peter, and his son, David III. His last day of work at the law office was the day before he entered the hospital for the treatment of his final illness.

Some highlights of David's career were his appointment to the Maine Governor's Council, being elected three times as County Attorney for Oxford County, serving as chairman of the board of trustees for Fryeburg Academy, serving on the board of directors of Carroll County Trust Company, later on the board of directors of Indian Head Bank, and serving as chairman of the board of directors of Consumers Water Company. In addition to his other accomplishments, David spent more than 50 years as secretary, trustee, Finance Committee member and, in his last years, president of Fryeburg Fair. His participation in the development of Fryeburg Fair into what it has become today was a matter of great pride to David. It was also a matter of great pride to David that his and Doris' children, John, David III and Ann, all followed in his footsteps and became attorneys. David loved family gatherings, where there was never a shortage of opinions to be expressed. David loved to ski with his family, play golf with his friends and watch baseball, especially the Red Sox. David loved his wife with all his heart, and in their later years together, when her heath declined, David was Doris' constant and devoted caretaker. One of the greatest tragedies in David's life occurred when Doris' son, LCDR Robert S. Graustein, a graduate of the U.S. Naval Academy and a naval aviator, whom David loved as his own, was killed in action in December of 1972 during his third tour of duty in Vietnam. It was a comfort to David that Bob's widow, now Duddie Andrews, returned to Fryeburg to live with their three sons after Bob's death.

David's beloved wife, Doris, died before him in November of 2009.

David is survived by Doris' son, John A. Graustein and wife, Barbara, of Falmouth; a son David R. Hastings III and wife, Carol, of Fryeburg; a daughter, Ann E. Hastings and domestic partner, Patricia, of West Baldwin; eight grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; his brothers, Hugh W. Hastings II and Peter G. Hastings, both of Fryeburg; and his sisters, Jane H. Folsom and Mary H. Dumas, both of Alfred; as well as their families and the families of his deceased sister, Helen H. Stearns, and deceased brother Edward E. Hastings II.

Visiting hours will be held on Saturday, Feb. 20, from 6 to 8 p.m. at Wood Funeral Home, 9 Warren Street, Fryeburg. A funeral service will be held on Sunday, Feb. 21 at 2 p.m., at the First Congregational Church, Main Street, Fryeburg. Burial will be at Pine Grove Cemetery in the spring. In lieu of flowers, donations in David's memory may be sent to the First Congregational Church of Fryeburg, 655 Main Street, Fryeburg, ME 04037. Online condolences maybe expressed to the family at www.woodfuneralhome.org

She was born in Wolfeboro, N.H., on Oct. 18, 1958. Those that knew her knew the special person that she was, and she will be deeply missed. She wanted her family and friends to celebrate her life with the song by Rascal Flatts, My Wish For You. If you really listen to the words of this song, she really wants the best for all.

She is survived by husband, Paul Stanton; son, Paul Stanton II; daughter, Krystal Stanton; stepdaughter, Kerri McQuade; mother, Beverly Edwards and stepfather, John Edwards; brother, Jerome Smith; sisters, Dorothy Cobban and Penny Thompson.

A remembrance was held at Betty and Paul's home in Blackstock, S.C., on Sunday, Jan. 10, 2010.

A recognized leader in early childhood education and a community relations specialist, Dorothy was born on April 15, 1922 in Buffalo, N.Y., and grew up in Providence R.I. and Williamstown, Mass. She has a bachelor's degree from Mount Holyoke College and a master's degree in Education from Columbia University. She was the wife of retired Ambassador Frederick Irving (a career diplomatic officer), and served with him in Austria, New Zealand, Iceland and Jamaica. She also accompanied him on special assignments to Greece, Cyprus, and Turkey, where she was asked by the U.S. Department of State to evaluate dependent schools. In 1988, the sesquicentennial year of Mount Holyoke College, Mrs. Irving was presented with an "Outstanding Alumnae Achievement" award for her "professionalism, sustained commitment and creativity" in the field of education and community relations overseas and in inner-city communities in the United States. This award was presented to 50 alumnae selected by a distinguished panel from over 25,000 living graduates of the college. In 1987, Mrs. Irving was honored by the mayor and school superintendent of Cambridge, Mass. for her work in a multi-ethnic school in that city. That same year, she was honored by the New England Chapter of the National Conference of Christians and Jews for her inter-cultural work. In Austria, in the early 1950s and again in 1967-68, Dorothy chaired the Children's Friendship Fund, a bi-national organization working to help handicapped and homeless children. She supervised over 100 Austrian and American volunteers and represented the Embassy in working with Austrian Government officials on this endeavor. When the Soviets invaded Czechoslovakia in 1968, she was named housing coordinator on behalf of the U.S. Embassy, organizing emergency housing, food, medical care, etc. for over 200 American students and families who were evacuated to Vienna. One half of a career Foreign Service couple, Dorothy was recognized and loved both locally and in the countries where she served for her commitment, creativity and skill in the fields of community relations and education. In Austria, New Zealand, Iceland and Jamaica, her active interest and outreach built bridges between those nations and the United States. Both at home and abroad she focused on early childhood education and inter-racial communication. In "retirement," Mrs. Irving wrote and continued to be active in education and community affairs. Her recently published book, This Too Is Diplomacy: Stories of a Partnership, describes her activities during her diplomatic years.

Dorothy is survived by her husband of 63 years, U.S. Ambassador (ret.) Frederick Irving; by her children, Susan of Washington, D.C., Rick of Winchester, Mass. and Barbara of Amherst, Mass.; and eight grandchildren.

A Memorial Service will be held at The First Church in Belmont (Unitarian Universalist), 404 Concord Ave., Belmont, Mass. at 3 p.m. on Sunday, Feb. 21. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in her name to the Women's Lunch Place, Boston, Mass. or the charity of your choice. Online guest book at www.brownandhickey.com

Born and brought up in Portland, Elena was the daughter of Loretto and Beatrice Piacitelli. She was born in the front room of her parents' Newbury St. home. She was the eighth child of nine. Elena started school at an early age and it was there that she quickly developed a love of reading and learning which continued throughout her life. She was an avid learner and loved to be informed about interesting things and to Elena everything and everybody was interesting. Elena loved school, she was proud of the fact that she had only missed one day of school in 12 years, because she couldn't find her coat. Her teacher didn't believe her and Elena was too shy to tell her that in a house of nine children and limited closet space things easily got lost. She never missed another day. It was after her husband died at an early age that Elena joined the work force. She held employment that was close by that allowed her to be home with her children when needed. It was during these days that Elena worked at school cafeterias most notably Cathedral Grammar School. It was there with her close friend Phyllis Murphy that she learned about volume cooking. Her next job was cooking for the St. Dominic's Rectory for the staff of clergy and nuns. She stayed for eight years. Elena then went to work at the Cathedral Rectory and was "in charge" of the kitchen. After seven years she retired but continued to fill in occasionally. It was here in these places that she developed a sincere respect and appreciation of the priests and nuns of the community. Elena loved to cook and would make trips to young friends houses to teach and help them make some of her specialties. When Elena's health failed she eventually had to move from her greatly loved Eastern Prom apartment to St. Joseph's Manor. The transition was a bit rough at first but as always Elena adapted quite nicely and in no time was roaming the halls in her wheelchair, Ms. Social Butterfly. It was here that she became reacquainted with many people and met new friends among the residents and staff. It was also here that Elena won three Blue Ribbons from the Cumberland County Fair when she had some of her famous crocheted hanging towels, cotton dishcloths and scrubbies entered. She eagerly told us about them but downplayed her own accomplishment to instead brag about her friends that also won prizes. Her endearing qualities are numerous, but the most recognizable was her humor and gregarious nature. She had a gleam in her eye and a truly loving spirit. She loved to laugh and to make people laugh and she accomplished this with ease. She loved to talk, she loved to listen and to learn. She was an ordinary lady with an extraordinary heart.

Besides her husband, Everett, Elena was predeceased by a sister, Pasqualina "Pat" Grimaldi, and three brothers, Martin, Tony, and Johnny Piacitelli.

She is survived by her children, daughter Christine A. Hersey of Portland and son Michael J. Hersey of Casco; four sisters, Philomena Carlista of Portland, Rose Piacitelli and Mary Grimaldi, both of South Portland, and Yolanda Hunter of Millinocket; and one granddaughter.

Visiting hours were on Wednesday, Feb. 17 at the Conroy-Tully Crawford Funeral Home, 172 State Street, Portland. Prayers will be recited at 9:15 a.m. on Thursday, Feb. 18 at the funeral home, followed by a 10 a.m. Mass of Christian Burial at the Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception, 307 Congress Street, Portland. Interment will be in Calvary Cemetery, South Portland. Online condolences may be expressed at www.ctcrawford.com. In lieu of flowers, donations in Elena's name may be made to: The Sisters of Mercy Retirement Fund, 605 Stevens Ave., Portland, ME 04103.

He was born in Portland, a son of Edwin and Lillian Thorn. Ed thrived on listening to talk radio and police scanners. He had a tremendous sense of humor and was blessed with the gift of gab. Ed had a strong Christian faith and attended Cornerstone Church in Naples for 10 years. He was employed by Hannaford for 17 years, and was most recently working at the Bridgton store.

Surviving are his wife of 35 years, Norma Thorn of Bridgton; his daughter, Monica Chretien of Naples; two grandchildren; and many extended family members.

Visiting hours were held Wednesday evening at Hall Funeral Home in Casco. A funeral service will be held 10:30 a.m. on Thursday at Cornerstone Church on Route 114 in Naples. Burial will be held in the spring. Online condolences may be left for the family at hallfuneralhomeinc.com

He was born Sept. 7, 1918, in Bristol, R.I., the oldest son of Michael and Filomena D'Arcangelo. The family moved to Maine, where Mel attended Portland schools. He graduated from Portland High School in 1938. While at PHS, he was a star football and baseball player. Mel was a lifelong supporter of PHS athletics. As a young man, he was employed for 13 years at Riverside Municipal Golf Course and golf remained a passion throughout his life. After high school, he graduated from Gray's Business School. He was with the Portland Fire Dept. for a brief time before enlisting in the U.S. Army Air Corps at the beginning of WWII. He completed 25 missions over Germany as a waist gunner on a B-17 (Flying Fortress) at a time when fighter support was limited. He received an Air Medal, three oak leaf clusters, the Distinguished Flying Cross and a Certificate of Valor. His first and last missions were over Wilhelmshaven. He married Leona Plunkett of Bridgton on Sept. 12, 1944, in Kingman, Ariz., where he was a gunnery instructor. They also spent time in Mississippi, where he was in charge of a German POW camp. After the war, he lived in Gorham where he owned and operated Mel's Auto Supply, traveling throughout the southern and western part of Maine. He was a pitcher in the Twilight League for Yudy's Tire, where he was known for his "nothing" ball. Mel was an active member of the Gorham Kiwanis Club, Windham Veterans of Foreign War, Portland American Legion. Portland Elks Club, Windham/Gorham Rod and Gun Club and the Portland Boys and Girls Club. He was a Babe Ruth coach in Gorham. He enjoyed fishing, hunting, skiing, golf and later in life working in his garden.

He was predeceased by two brothers, Patrick and Louie D'Arcangelo.

Mel is survived by his wife of 65 years, Leona D'Arcangelo of Raymond; his son Michael of Raymond and his daughter, Carol Hooper of Standish.

An hour of visitation will be held at Dolby Funeral Chapel, 434 River Rd., Windham on Thursday, Feb. 18, 2010, from 2 p.m. until a service at 3 p.m., with the Rev. Phil Shearman officiating.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to: The Portland Boys and Girls Club, 277 Cumberland Ave., Portland, ME 04101 or to the Veterans of Foreign Wars, P.O. Box 1776, Windham, ME 04062.

A former Naples resident for nearly 50 years, she resided in Biddeford for the past eight years.

Genevieve was born in New York City, the daughter of Ingeborg (Lonning) and Sigvart Larsen-Saetre, on Oct. 22, 1918, the youngest of six children. She graduated from high school in the midst of the Depression and worked at Wanamaker's, B. Altman's and Macy's before taking a job working with Notraship, a Norwegian Shipping Company, during World War II. In 1943, she met the love of her life, Kristen, at a Norwegian-American Club in New York. They were married on April 2, 1944 at Our Saviour's Atonement Lutheran Church in Inwood, Manhattan, New York City. In 1953, they moved to Naples with their three daughters. There, they added another daughter and two sons to their family. Genevieve stayed home to raise their large family, providing some of the finest Norwegian and American cooking ever to grace a table! In later years, she went to work at Maine National Bank, Maine Insurance Co., and Chute Homestead. Genevieve and Kristen loved to travel and made many trips to Norway to visit their large extended family, who still live there. They also crossed the country with their camper when they were in their seventies, relishing every moment. The family has always been close. This is a tribute to the example that both of our parents set. Nothing is more important than family. Both were true members of the Greatest Generation.

She is survived by four daughters, Kristine M. Arntsen, Ingrid A. Ebersole, Lisa A. Goff and Helen A. Gauthier; a son, Peter M. Arntsen; five grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; and a nephew.

She is predeceased by her husband, Kristen M. Arntsen; and son, Erik A. Arntsen.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be directed to the American Heart Association. Calling hours were held at Hall Funeral Home in Casco on Tuesday, Feb. 16. A funeral service will be held at the First Lutheran Church, 132 Auburn St., Portland, on Thursday, Feb. 18 at 10:30 a.m.

He was born in South Portland, on March 2, 1936. Dr. Boyle grew up on Peaks Island across the bay from Portland. He was saved while serving our country in the U.S. Air Force. It was, in fact, while he was stationed in Texas that he met Georgia Yancy at a youth group at Grace Baptist Church of Amarillo. After their marriage in 1958, the Boyles served on the staff of Grace Baptist under Pastor M. O. Garner. During his tenure in Amarillo, Boyle earned both a bachelor and master's degree from West Texas State University and was later granted a Doctor of Divinity from Faith Baptist Seminary. In June 1970, the Boyles moved their young family back to Portland to plant Grace Baptist Church there, a church Dr. Boyle pastored until his retirement in November, 2008. He continued to preach and teach at area churches until his death. When the Baptist Bible Fellowship started a college (Baptist Bible Institute/College East) in Shrub Oak, N.Y., Dr. Boyle got involved in the new venture. He became vice president of BBCE in December 1979. In 1981, the college moved to Boston, Mass., and in February 1985, Dr. Boyle became president. He held this office until May 2006, when he was named Chancellor of the college. While he continued to lead Grace Baptist, he solidified a college that will continue to educate and replicate Baptist leaders for generations. Dr. Boyle was one of those rare and remarkable men who was most loved and respected by those who knew him best. Dr. Boyle was a leader of the Baptist Bible Fellowship of Maine, serving as its chairman on many occasions. He was also instrumental in the planting of many young churches throughout Maine and New England.

Dr. Boyle is survived by his wife, Georgia B. (Yancy) of Westbrook; four children, Scott A. Boyle of LaPorte, Texas, Keith R. Boyle of Gresham, Ore., Valarie K. Simoneau of Baldwin and Corey B. Boyle of Westbrook; eight grandchildren; two sisters, Estelle Whitten of Westbrook and Betty Ann Hanson of Buxton; two brothers, Elbridge Boyle of Portland and Raymond Boyle of Lewiston; and many nieces and nephews.

Written tributes and memories may be e-mailed to boyle@boston.edu. Please place your full name in the subject line, and all tributes will be organized in permanent form for the family.

Relatives and friends are invited to call at the Grace Baptist Church, 476 Summit St., Portland, Friday, Feb. 19, from 7 to 9 p.m., where a funeral and celebration of Dr. Boyle's life will be held Saturday, Feb. 20, at 10 a.m. For additional information please visit www.jonesrichandhutchins.com. Arrangements by Jones, Rich & Hutchins Funeral Home, 199 Woodford St., Portland. In lieu of flowers, the family has requested that donations be made to the Dr. Harry R. Boyle Memorial Missions Fund; a fund to promote and support the children's ministries of Grace Baptist Church, missions and missionaries at home and abroad, for the purpose of reaching the lost for Christ, administered by: Grace Baptist Church, 476 Summit St., Portland, ME 04103.

A happy woman of warm wit and intelligence, her quiet faith and inner peace were profound. Margaret was born to Ernest and Alma Merrill Gurney in Hebron on Dec. 10, 1921, the sixth of seven children. As a child, she was quiet with reading being one of her favorite and lasting pastimes. She graduated from Norway High School in the Class of 1940. Margaret was a beautiful young woman, blonde, blue-eyed and independent long before it was fashionable. She soon started her life-long career with what was then known as The New England Telephone Company, retiring at the age of 55 after 37 years. She was a member of the Telephone Pioneers of America. A thoughtful gracious woman with a deep love of family, she never forgot a birthday, anniversary or special occasion. She became the favorite aunt to her many nieces and nephews who remember birthday cards with money that smelled of her favorite perfume. Among the many memories will be her lime party salad at Christmas, lobster rolls at the beach and fall foliage trips around the mountains. Although independent, Margaret held a deep concern for others, caring for her mother until her death in 1967 and, in her later years, providing company and assistance to Cleona Tracy, until her death. She was a devoted sister, loving and supportive aunt, and loyal friend. She is deeply missed by many nieces, nephews, grand-nieces and grand-nephews.

She is survived by her dear sister, Hazel Holden of Fryeburg.

She was predeceased by her parents; sisters, Edna Briggs, Mary Chapman, Georgie Holden and Edith Thurston; and a brother, Howard Gurney.

A private graveside service will be held in the spring at Riverside Annex Cemetery in South Paris. Memorial donations can be made in her name to Market Square Healthcare Center, 12 Market Square, South Paris, ME 04281. Arrangements are under the direction of Weston-Chandler Funeral Home, 45 Main St., South Paris. Online condolences may be shared with her family at www.westonchandler.com

He was born on Oct. 2, 1916, on Chebeague Island, the son of John W. and Annie Cooper. "Bud" was raised in Portland and graduated from Deering High School in 1934. Bud served in the Army during World War II. Bud married his wife, Myrle Dyer in 1938. They were members of the Second Parish Orthodox Church in Portland. He owned and operated L.C. Cooper Co. Builders along with his son Leon (Buzz) Cooper Jr. Bud was active in the Windham Lions Club. He helped raise money for the Windham's first rescue unit and served as a rescue volunteer for a few years. He and his wife, Myrle spent winters in Tucson, Ariz., and Silver Springs, Fla. Up until four years ago, they spent their summers in Windham. They have been married for 71 years.

Bud is survived by his wife, Myrle of Portland; his daughter, Jean Reeves of Windham; his sons, Leon "Buzz" Jr. of Windham and Jack of Raymond; five grandchildren; siblings, John Cooper of Windham, Gertrude Gavin of Windham, Evelyn Dudley of Portland and Helen Pride of Falmouth.

He was predeceased by a brother, Ralph Cooper and a sister, Dorothy Crandall.

Visiting hours and funeral services were at the Dolby Funeral Chapel, 434 River Rd., Windham on Friday, Feb. 12, 2010. Burial followed in the Smith Cemetery, Windham. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to: The Windham Rescue Association, P.O. Box 330, Windham, ME 04062.

He was born in West Baldwin on Oct. 11, 1926, the son of Albert and Lilla Ridlon Locke. He attended local schools and graduated from Fryeburg Academy in 1944. He proudly served in the U.S. Navy during World War II. He went on to attend Gray's Business School in Portland. He married Greta Wales on Sept. 8, 1951. Myron worked at the Cornish and Kezar Falls Light and Power Company as a bookkeeper for 16 years. He also worked as a bookkeeper at the Textile House in Effingham, N.H. for a few years. He ran Locke's Variety and Drugstore (formerly Ridlon's Pharmacy) in Kezar Falls for 11 years in the late 60s and 70s. He later worked at Vulcan Electric in Kezar Falls until his retirement in 1992. He had been a member of the Kezar Falls Knights of Pythias, and the West Baldwin Grange. His many hobbies included painting, playing the piano, chair caning, and he was an avid collector of many things. Above all, he was a devoted husband, father, and grandfather. Spending time with his family was most important to Myron.

Besides his parents, he was predeceased by two brothers, Leonard and Fred Locke.

Surviving is his beloved wife, Greta Locke of Porter; three sons, Michael Locke of Porter, David Locke of South Portland and Peter Locke; a daughter, Tracy Clements of Gorham; a brother, Clayton Locke of Porter; two sisters, Janet Dall of West Baldwin and Maudella Page of West Baldwin; six grandchildren; a great-granddaughter; and many loving nieces and nephews.

Visiting hours were on Wednesday, Feb. 17, at the Watson, Neal & York Funeral Home, 71 Maple St., Cornish. A funeral service will be at the funeral home on Thursday, Feb. 18, at 11 a.m. Burial will be in Kezar Falls in the spring.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be sent to: The Sacopee Rescue, P.O. Box 367, Parsonsfield, ME 04047.

He was born on Oct. 14, 1960, in Rochester, N.H., the son of Robert Jr. and Patricia (Brouillard) Marsh.

He enjoyed visiting summers at his parents' camp in Milton, N.H., fishing, gardening, watching the Red Sox, walking the beach and especially visiting with his grandson. Robert was a longtime automotive painter recognized in national magazines for his wonderful work.

He was predeceased by his paternal grandparents, Robert and Louise Marsh; maternal grandparents, Henry and Grace Brouillard; and an uncle.

Robert is survived by his parents, Robert and Patricia Marsh of Falmouth; wife Carla Marsh of East Baldwin; daughter Danielle Marsh of East Baldwin; brother Jeffrey Marsh of Falmouth; sister Kathleen Prewitt of York; a grandson; and nephews.

A memorial service was held on Tuesday, Feb. 16, at the Community Church of Milton, Steeple Street, Milton, N.H. Condolences may be expressed at www.funeralalternatives.net. Arrangements are under the care of Funeral Alternatives Group, 417 Route One, Falmouth. In his memory, donations may be made to: The American Cancer Society, 1 Bowdoin Mill Island, Topsham, ME 04086.